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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ALdreams on 2023-08-06 21:47:37.

I (30f) and my husband (33m). We have been married for 2 years and together for 5. I pay 70% of our bills and I also pay anywhere we go out. I buy him gifts and I do everything. I am a romantic person but he is not at all. Since he makes less than me I never had an issue with how everything has been set up. Even though he keeps insisting that we pay 50% /50% which is a big bullshit because I pay 60% of rent and I pay hydro, internet bill etc. he only pays 40% of rent and for his car. Today, was the last straw where I really got pissed off. We went out a week ago with friends and I didn’t have my card on me so he payed $120 for both of our tickets and he won’t shut up about it. He keeps complaining that he paid for us and he can’t afford it , even though I paid last months rent by myself because again he was short on money. So he kept on talking about it for this whole week and today I got upset and told him that as his wife sometimes I deserved to get a little spoiled and he doesn’t have to count every $1 he spends on me. He kept saying it was a “waste” of money. Yesterday, he spent money on whiskey with his friends he never complained about that or when he goes and spends money on bbq with his friends he never complains about that which I brought up. His excuse was that “I have a social life of my own everything is not about you”. He also said that he can’t hang out with his friends and not spend money because it looks bad. That’s when I got pissed off and told him that I am a beautiful woman who is also successful and independent I don’t need to beg a man to spend money on me and if I went out there right now there would be a line of men who will be willing to spend more than $120 on me and he should appreciate me and value me because he is being cheap and just because I don’t care about money doesn’t mean he needs to disrespect me over $120 and call it a waste because it was spent on me ($60 was technically spent on himself and the other $60 on me). He said he ll block me everywhere which he did and told me he is not coming home or answering his phone because what I said was too much. So now I am wondering if I went too far since he is not making as much money as I do , maybe I should have been more understanding of his situation. AITA?

Edit: I just want to add some more info, I don’t make crazy amount of money or twice as much as him. I just make more than him but it’s no where near making TWICE or something. Also, he always expects me to pay for both of us if he goes anywhere with me. This was the first time after a very very long time that he payed for us. I also help him financially if he ever needs anything (example I payed for last months rent by myself and covered his part, I never ask for money back because we are married and I don’t want to count every penny that is being spent on him since I consider it to be OUR money which clearly he doesn’t).

Edit: SOMEONE asked me to add this detail I am 5 months pregnant 🤰🏻