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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/BlooregardQKazoo_ on 2023-09-18 22:04:27.

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Yesterday I 22F made dinner for myself, my brother and 2 roommates, 26-28M. It was supremely exhausting. Really delicious, but exhausting to make. I really hoped to have leftovers more than ever before because I didn’t even want to look at my stove—today I still don’t. Then my brother told me his girlfriend was coming over. I didn’t think anything of it, and they both start eating, which is fine. Everyone who wanted food was fed, and there was a lot left until they both decided to get seconds. That’s fine too, but at this point I’m just thinking, there is definitely enough for me to have a small portion for lunch to bring to work, and I’m content with that. I wake up today, ready to pack some for work, but all of it is gone, she ate the last of it, and her and my brother told me as much. They even left the plates in the sink despite me having done the dishes before going to bed.

I don’t really care about not having the leftovers; I dislike having to spend money on fast food and takeout, but I still can and will do it if I need to eat. What bothers me—and maybe this is a minor thing—is that she never reciprocates. Today she had the nerve to get annoyed with me for asking if she could add one thing to her DoorDash order for me, that I was going to Venmo her for. I do groceries for 4 because it’s 4 of us that live here, not 5. She comes over and eats more than half of what I make (my brother is also not innocent here), sometimes my roommates have to go without or go buy their own food because of her, and I’m supposed to just be okay with that… why? We go through our groceries quicker and I have to cook more when she’s here eating more than her fair share. I had to have McDonald’s for lunch at work (it’s the closest restaurant to my job that wouldn’t make me get points for being late) today and I don’t even know what for dinner because she just had to have a third plate last night, and she couldn’t even be bothered to get me a sandwich? Some fries? Anything??? That royally pissed me off, so I told my brother she can’t come here to help herself to my food anymore.

She feels bad now, and my brother argued, “But your cooking is good! And DoorDash is a lot of money, she shouldn’t be expected to spend it on you,” but groceries for 4 is also a lot of money that I’m spending on food that’s supposed to last, and cooking is a lot of work! How is it supposed to last if she comes around eating more than her fair share? And she does this often! Not even because she’s struggling for food or anything like that, she just likes my cooking. But I’m not a restaurant or a food pantry! I don’t actually expect her to buy me food, or do my groceries or anything like that, but the least she could do is be considerate of the people who actually live here and not eat a majority of our food nearly every time I cook.

AITA or am I just being selfish?

Edit: I didn’t think to mention it, I don’t cook for everyone just because. Everyone in the house contributes to groceries when they are able. Sometimes they even pay me to make something specific that they want. I wouldn’t cook for anyone that wasn’t contributing something, otherwise I wouldn’t be so mad about my brother’s gf doing it.