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Trigger Warning: discussions of abuse; some ablism in the comments

Mood Spoiler: justice is being served

Original Post: May 28, 2024

Hi reddit, this is a new account because the stuff on my regular account might get me seen as unprofessional if the story is linked to me.

So i (19m) am in a nursing program, we do alot of physical exams on each other to practice, which involves wearing shorts and tanks. Its important to mention i am permanently blind in one eye, im constantly running into walls, doors, railings, plants, people, animals, everything.

As you can guess im covered in bruised 90% of the time, on my blind side.

In the course one day we were talking about signs of abuse and the teacher said constant bruising, i raised my hand and added that its important to talk to the patient if their an adult, before calling the police as it could be something else. She asked for an example so i rolled up my sleeve and explained that the bruises were from door handles of the school which were varying colors and heights, she nodded and agreed.

She said with children we call the second we suspect abuse, with adults we attempt to talk to them first and if their reason seems vaild, we dont call.

The lessons continued, and a weekish later the cops showed up to my door, they told me they got a report that i was being physically abused and i was always covered in bruises. I told them about my dissbility, they checked my home, talked to my family, saw no further signs, and i asked questions next, they got my address from the university because they take abuse seriously here and when they talked to the university about me the university was very concerned and just wanted to help me.

After the police left, i talked to some people at the university, including a psychologist just so they could be sure i had no mental signs of abuse, then life went on.

Well i was still coming in the bruises every day, and one of my classmates came up to me, she told me our classmate kay, was telling people she was thinking about calling the police again because im still covered in bruises.

I got my classmates report written down, along side a few others and waited, sure enough police showed up again, same song and dance but this time i told the university that kay was using the police to harass me and i wanted something done about it.

The university decided the best course of action was to move her from my labs, to the other ones so she couldnt see weather i was bruised or not.

Shes now told me im an asshole and that she was just trying to help me, and i didnt need to mess up her whole university schedule.

So reddit, AITA

Relevant Comments:

Commenter: She really didn’t learn the lesson the class was taught, did she? A lesson she needs to understand if she is going to work in this job. If she’d done what the teacher taught — talk to the adult — then none of this would have happened. She brought this on herself.

OOP: Some of my classmates told me they tried to talk her out of it because ‘what abuse victim shows off their bruises to a classroom filled with nursing students and two registered nurses?’ Which is fair, but i didn’t know if i went to far getting her moved from my labs

You did what you had to do- it’s not your fault:

Thanks, i have a tendency to worry if im doing the right thing or not, i tend to be a doormat, working on it with the help of my professors though

Commenter: If you are blind in one eye, the school should have that on record to minimize stuff like this. Then with your permission then the school could tell your teachers about it, that calls for some kind of accommodation for you.

OOP: School and teachers are aware, there were changes made, the problem is my school is under alot of construction meaning detours and changes in my path im not used to

(to a different commenter): Its specifically my blind side, if i know an area well i dont run into things, but my university is doing constant construction leading to constant changes, leading to hitting things, think moving an end table two inches over now everyones stubbing their toe, its just twice as likely im going to run into things, it has not and would not affect my nursing as this is a condition the schools aware of and said would not be an issue

Commenter: Oh ok, so why not ask for a student guide? It might help you

OOP: Because someone walking with me doesnt necessarily prevent problems amd can actually increased issues if they walked on my good side they are useless, if they walk on my bad side to long it increases the likely hood of tripping over them if im not actively touching them

Commenter: Genuine question. How do you get bruised almost everyday? Do you have low sight in your other eye as well? Do you wear eye glasses? I’m blind in one eye as well (by birth). I’m short sighted but I rarely get bruised running into things. I usually sprain my ankle due to not noticing unlevel ground or hit my toe on the wall corners due to blind spots once or twice a year, but the peripheral vision and the angle at which I turn my head to keep my eye at centre is more than enough to not bump into things so frequently.

OOP: Im near sighted in the other eye, stuff on my left side is just impossible to see, glasses get in yhe way of some of my peripheral vision, keeping my head turned to long causes stiffness in my neck and i have to be able to turn my head fast and quick.

As i said, well i get bruised alot, it doesnt interfere with my job, its somethibg ive grown up with, and i bruise easily, i dont bump into anything at home, but in the outside world i do

Commenter: I ask this as a nurse, and I mean no disrespect, but are you sure that nursing is the best field for you given that impairment?

OOP: Yes, i love helping people, and im fully capable of the job, im the only one who ever gets injuried in my daily life lol and its typically becayse im not paying enough attention to my surroundings and dont notice something new and trip on it

Commenter: NTA. I have a friend who is blind in both eyes and never runs into anything. He travels all over the world alone. Have you looked into services that can help you learn tools so you stop injuring yourself?

OOP: Part of my issue is that my mother denied i was blind for most of my life, its only recently ive tried to learn to handle it, im working on it, but it takes effort and time, and i am getting supports, as i said the school knows

Commenter: Its still strange that you have so many bruises just because you are blind in one eye. A lot of completely blind ppl run around with no bruises at all. You should go to a doctor and have it checked. Some ppl who bruise easily have an underlying disease.

OOP: I had it checked when i was a child, my optic nerve is to small, severly impacting my depth perception, my doctor is aware, and tells me to not run, to avoid going down stairs to close together, or running up or down them

Commenter (Part of a longer comment): Whoa. There sure are a whole lot of people trying to gatekeep the nursing industry and make sure there are no nurses with vision problems. Holy hell. Don’t give them much thought, though. That’s insane. They think something is impossible just because they can’t imagine a world different from their own perspective.

OOP: Thanks lol there’s someone in the comments absolutely questioning the regulations of my hospital at the point because my hospital requires 2+ people to physical move a patient requiring help, which is the only task my eye gets mildly in the way of and he just wont believe ill never move a patient on my own

Editor’s note: A large number of the comments were about OOP being a nurse and whether people thought that was wise. Some are pretty extreme. I did not feel like most of those comments were relative to the post itself but included a couple to show the spread of responses. All of those that I included were upvoted.

Update Post: June 20, 2024 (3 weeks later)

Ok so, tldr on the other, im blind in one eye, i run into random stuff if im not paying enough attention, im covered in various bruises, showed this during class well talking about abuse and how we have to talk to adults before calling, girl decided to call the cops on me twice claiming im abused, resulting in me forced to go to counciling, talk to therapists, police, ect until everyone was assured i wasnt abused.

So anyways, its been a bit since that post and i have big updates on her, i called her kay in the other story so lets stick with that.

So anyways, i had previously gotten her removed from my labs, we still shared class not lab, i figured everything was fine now and she’d leave me alone, but i was wrong.

Not only was s…

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