Please read Editor’s Note before you proceed onto the newer updates.

Editor’s Note: due to the lengths of several new updates AFTER the original and prior updates, I am starting this BoRU with the TL;DRs, new updates (starting at Aug 2023), and relevant comments to stay within the character limit.

For a refresher of the story containing ~ the FULL original and first four updates. ~ Here is the BoRU #2

Original Post: June 5, 2023

OOP and her husband had been together since she was 19 and he was 22. Married for 6 years now with 2 kids, 3rd baby on the way. She found out her dad has cancer. Her mother has passed away when she was 12. OOP’s husband has been very supportive from day one and suggested her to step away from her job for a while to take care of her family. OOP has her best friend who she knew since they were babies. Both families grew up together. After going to wake her husband up, she discovered her friend’s text messages to him from his phone. Realizing it has been going on for four months that OOP’s husband and her best friend have been lying to her. She tries to figure out what to do next that she knew now about the affair.

Update #1: June 5, 2023 (same day, 14 hours later)

OOP spent a good amount of time gathering and documenting everything she has on her husband and her best friend. Used her dad’s hospice care plan as a front cover so her husband doesn’t know she knew. She is thinking about going to back to work, but working with a lawyer first to get things in order should she move forward with the next steps of her life. Per her lawyer, OOP doesn’t have to worry about her inheritance from her parents which her husband cannot touch it. While her husband was at work, OOP revealed what took place between her husband and best friends to their mothers who are now upset on the whole incident. Met with the lawyer, OOP gets her finances, logistics, and everything in order to make sure she is in a good position to go after her husband and best friend.

Update #2 - June 6, 2023 (one day later)

OOP names the characters in the posts: MIL & FIL: Ruth and Joe / EX-BFF’s parents: Angie and Bob / Ex-BFF: Jess / STBX: Tyler / Ex-BFF’s brother: Jake / OOP’s dad: dad.

OOP provides a quick summary on how things went so quickly in the last couple posts. She was able to meet with her OB/GYN on the same day to get checked, all clear. Several more tests were done and waiting for the results to arrive. OOP met with her lawyer to go over everything including her husband’s financial records that she got ahold of to make sure her bases are covered. If everything goes well with what she got, OOP should not have any problems with getting the divorce papers within a month. Angie and Ruth (MIL and Ex-BFF’s mothers) told OOP what happened after both sets of parents confronted Tyler (Ex) and Jess (Ex best friend). All four are very upset with both for the affair. Tyler and Jess have been cut off from their families.

Tyler discovers OOP has moved her stuff and their children’s stuff to her dad’s to get away. He went to look for OOP, but she wasn’t there. She left for her dad’s cabin with her kids, now away and safe. Tyler gets arrested after trying to break in OOP’s dad’s house (not cabin). OOP had to get a therapy session in order to talk things out from her end and will set up therapy sessions for her children as needed. Per her lawyer, OOP is now collecting all text messages from Jess who told her to fix everything especially her parents cutting her off. Blamed OOP for stealing Tyler from her. Tyler has begged to reconcile, but OOP isn’t giving in. He doesn’t know about the divorce papers yet until he would be served with them. OOP suspected Tyler and Jess won’t be staying together since their parents have confronted them. Jess’ brother, Jake is on leave from the military, he is stepping into help OOP and her family per Angie and Bob. OOP thanks the redditors for the continuing support as she deals with the whole situation on Tyler and Jess.

Update #3: June 12, 2023 (six days later)

Tyler finds OOP’s post and asked if she is serving him the divorce papers. OOP said yes. He begs for forgiveness for his behaviors toward her. OOP makes regular meetings with her lawyer to make sure she has everything as needed to make things smooth. Jake is doing great, being a great support system for OOP and her children. OOP’s dad is not doing well, now in the hospital for a while. Kids are adjusting well along with therapy already set up to cope with the unexpected events in their lives after moving away from Tyler. Still pregnant for a couple more months.

Update #4 - July 23, 2023 (one month later)

OOP’s dad has died. Her marriage ended in dissolution after Tyler found out about being served with the papers. Per her lawyer, the dissolution process was quickly and smoothly after Tyler gave OOP everything she asked for in the prior divorce papers. OOP has full custody of the kids with visitations for Tyler. Therapy is going on for OOP and her kids. Still pregnant, but the baby is doing well. OOP’s ex-MIL, Ruth, and ex-BFF’s mom, Angie, are helping her with the kids. All three women are on great terms with each other. Jake has gone back to his active duties but will be back to help OOP and her family. Their friendship is going great and might be moving onto the next step, but Jake and OOP are taking things slowly. Tyler and Jess are no longer together. He has left Jess, who has been blacklisted from her family after the blowup.

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Update #5 (in comments): August 23, 2023 (one month later from the last update)

Just wanted to come back for a small update :) Baby is here! He was born slightly premature but no nicu stay was needed. He was 5lbs 9oz and 19” and absolutely beautiful. Angie was in the room with me when I had him while MIL stayed with the other littles. My older two are obsessed with their baby brother and it makes my heart happy.

MIL and Angie are taking turns spending the night and days with me for the first six weeks until we get acclimated. I told them they didn’t have to but they insisted. Honestly I’m grateful for it. I can feel the waves of PPD trying to drag me under and my mental health really hasn’t been doing so good (don’t worry my therapist knows and we’re working through it). Knowing that this baby never gets to know and feel the love of my dad has really been hurting and the fact that this is the only grand baby he didn’t get to meet. I miss him like crazy and wish he was still here.

Jake was planning on staying in for another two years to retire but they offered him “early retirement” (not because anything going on with me or this whole situation, there was a situation at work. He didn’t do anything wrong lol) so within the next six months he’ll be moving back home. He’s going to try house hunting and find a place before he comes home but since he isn’t allowed to take any leave during this time to view places since he has to work on his exit stuff there’s a chance he’ll be temporarily living with me until he finds a place. No he isn’t moving in permanently lol. He might even just get an apartment for a year and then buy a house.

There’s also some drama with Tyler already because he’s pissed I wouldn’t let him in the room when I had baby. So if you want any more updates on that front I’ll provide when I’m not overwhelmed.

Love you all, thank you all for being my ear when I need to vent and get everything off my chest. I hope all of your days are wonderful today and everything goes your way.

Until next time friends <3

Update #6: Answers to a few common questions and a small update <3: October 14, 2023 (2.5 months later)

Hey everyone, I can’t believe it’s been almost two months since I last updated you all. I’ve missed chatting, but life has been keeping me very busy.

• “does Tyler’s parents still talk to him?”

No. My MIL cut him o…

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