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The original was posted on /r/truscum by /u/GravityVsTheFandoms on 2024-10-17 21:55:17+00:00.

Since I’m completely stealth in public, I hate any mention of me being trans or the idea that I “was” a girl. This I know comes down to social anxiety because I’m very self conscious of how others perceive me in public. Most of it is in my head and I know that. I’ve been trying to set boundaries with my dad and friends, but at times it seems that it slips through. My friends are all LGBT. Today in math, my friend got his yearbook and found 2 of our other mutuals who haven’t changed their deadnames on legal documents, so their deadnames were on the yearbook. He made a joke that he knows their deadnames and had an “advantage” against them (its purely a joke, he wouldn’t actually do anything to cause drama or inflict dysphoria on them). My deadname is gender neutral so I just never bothered changing it. He said “if I didn’t know you guys were trans-” and then I cut him off and quietly said “stop talking about it please” and then moved on. On a piece of paper I said “please stop outing me in public” and we moved on. There’s been many different examples of this happening, this is just the recent one. My dad sometimes does the same thing. I don’t want to talk about my journey with being trans in public. I don’t need random people knowing what my medical situation is like. I don’t really need advice here, I’m just venting about this. Love my friends, but I just want nothing to do with the association of being trans in public. Only friend that knows I’m on Testosterone because I told him is that same friend I mentioned from earlier, he’s a great friend, but sometimes I wish he’d keep his mouth shut. I’ve established this boundary so hopefully it’ll stop happening.