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The original was posted on /r/truscum by /u/Ok-Object2902 on 2024-10-18 00:25:42+00:00.

The spotlight that is placed on us because of how common it’s become to see people who identify as transgender is terrifying to me. It means that it’s easier to be suspect of people and thus, easier for us to be outed. Today I was hit with two very odd comments: “When I first saw you I thought you were a girl” and “my wife thought you were trans” by 2 different coworker.

Even though I played off those comments today very well, it triggered a feeling in me I haven’t felt since I was a teenager. Suddenly, I’m dysphoric. Worried about each and every feature, my height, my voice, the size of my hands. I transitioned over 10 years ago. I’ve had all the surgeries. I’ve got a beard. I’m hairy. And somehow…I think I’ve been outed.

I am fully stealth. No contact with anyone who knew me previously, family included. I hate that after all this time, I still can’t escape this part of me. I’m having really dark thoughts and it sucks because I was just starting to feel comfortable at this job. I wonder - can any of us ever just appear normal?