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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/PheonixGalaxy on 2024-10-29 13:17:57+00:00.
Growing up as a guy only around women I picked up small things but nothing major. The issues is when I would talk to a girl and tell my mom about it, i would get the classic “Is she your girlfriend?” No matter the context so i would normally just say my friend or a classmate but in the same breath mentioned guys. It’s a vague memory but my family tried to gay test me as a kid. The asked me if I had to check my nails how would I check it, my dumbass used to put my hand of a flat surface to see all hands at once because I peeled my nails a lot, The results became inconclusive. I act more “feminine” and watching “girly” shows like miraculous or Steven universe and my mom saw that. A few years of this down the road my mom starts acting weird around me, during this time my mom was mad at my sister for dating but never inviting anybody over, the issue was her not knowing who my sister was dating.
Just to avoid future issues so I don’t have to sneak around I ask my mom if I can start trying to date women, the second the word women left my mouth my mom looked like she seen a ghost. Then she started laughing at me. She told me how she assumed I was gay and how from her perspective I 1.randomly stopped talking about women, 2. Act feminine because I don’t know what is considered straight or gay actions because I only grew up around women, 3. I talk way more about my guy friends. The thing is she say my search history before I knew what incognito was, TWICE! So I don’t know how she didn’t know I was 100% straight. We shared a laugh but she told me how she would support me however i turned out. To this day she still slightly suspects me.
Smaller examples my mom used
Wearing towels up to my nipples
Crossing my legs when I sit
Watched My little pony for a year because I’ll want any show with a good opening theme beck then. Im not a Brony
Preferred my stuffed animals over action figures because I liked how soft they were
Played with my hair, my hair grows fast thanks to my genetics.
Only liking soft things which was later found to my related to sensory issues I had
Listening more to girly songs
Every time me getting a girlfriend was brought up I said “I didn’t want a girlfriend” without clarifying i didnt want a boyfriend no excuse for that one, just didn’t want a relationship at the time
Using terms like “period 💅 “ for a while because my mom/sister said it a lot
Being obsessed with Kirby and animal crossing
Minor stuff but that’s what let to her conclusion but I see where she’s coming from
TLDR Mom thought I was gay because I only talked about guys around her and never about women after my first crush flopped