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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/Brilliant-Purple-591 on 2024-11-03 21:03:35+00:00.

It starts with the small things. Events that seem insignificant at first glance are often the cause for drowning in gambling, substance abuse, or endless hours in front of screens.

The real pandemic of the 21st century was not COVID, but rapidly growing loneliness. Although we’re more connected than ever, nearly one in three Americans between 18 and 34 feels lonely every single day (source: Erin Connors, 2024, psychiatry.org).

But the sinistery doesn’t stop here. Whether it’s the craving for meaningful relationships or the desire to realize one’s potential, once we’re caught in the guilt-addiction cycle, it’s hard to escape.

The road to addiction

Significant failures or traumas occur -> Negative beliefs take root: I am unworthy or I am incapable of achieving XYZ -> Guilt builds -> Dopamine temporarily masks the guilt -> Guilt intensifies -> More dopamine is needed to cope.

This is a sensitive topic, and I know some may feel defensive reading about it. But hear me out.

The only way out is through is forgiveness and compassion. In about 50 summers, everything will be over. Many who find themselves at life’s end wish they’d had the courage to pursue what truly mattered to them.

So here’s your Life Pro Tip: Forgive yourself. It’s the only way forward. Unlearn the habit of comparing yourself to others and instead measure your progress against who you were yesterday. During the process of forgiving, look for people who have what you desire. Learn from them - even if they’re your rivals. They have the potential to unveil your blindspots.

Define your goals in stages. Start small and keep escalating as you reach each milestone. Set a timeline and track measurable progress. Hold yourself accountable with a friend or colleague

People often forget the previous eight years of chaos and remember the last two years of purpose. That’s how our consciousness works. That’s why it’s never too late to start working toward your ideal self.