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The original was posted on /r/transmedical by /u/Prudent-Rough8124 on 2025-01-26 02:52:16+00:00.


I have met one person with early onset GD, he is FTM. I met him through another friend, and I had no idea he was FTM transexual until he told me, after hearing me out and seeing I was legitimately struggling. Everybody else I’ve met that claimed to be trans was either a late onset AGP or a queer activist with no reported dysphoria at all. Me and this friend are both in our early 20s and avoid trans crowds at all costs, because we fit in as normal hetero people much easier. Both of us find it really difficult to relate to anybody in our age range that is “trans” or “queer,” and only get along with one another. Neither of us have a sane well adjusted adult who understands what we’re going through and has any useful advice on how to operate at all. Online resources/communities are no longer reliable.

I tried to get friendly and make sense amongst those crowds, but I just ended up with numerous bad experiences. At this point I am really uncomfortable with being hit on by trans women, because by now it’s happened with every one I’ve met. I can’t even remember every time it’s happened by now. I guess they think because they can clock me it’s appropriate to approach me and hit on me. The (cis…) women who’ve witnessed it have supported me when I was looking around to see if what was happening was actually weird and inappropriate. They all attest, yes it’s weird, and yes, those trans women are obviously different than I am.

I rejected them all politely and said I was only interested in men, almost all of them still continued hitting on me being weird. Only 2 just stopped flat out, but the energy is weird. They do not respect me. The first 3 I met in person all hit on me, repeatedly. After that I was told there would be a trans woman at a party I was going to (on two separate occasions), I went, and I predicted both times to my friends they would hit on me once I got there and they clocked me… they both did. That was 5 in a row in real life, and it has made me legitimately uncomfortable around trans women.

I find it hard to trust or take seriously any trans women I meet because I’ve had so many bad experiences, online and in public. Literally every single trans woman I’ve met ended up being an AGP. Every last one. And that’s fine if they are I guess, but they lie about it and try and hit on me when I say right off the bat, I’m only into men. It’s gotten to the point I am weary of trans lesbians altogether, even those who claim early onset GD, and I don’t really trust a trans woman when she says she’s also only into men. I’ve had AGPs online get friendly with me, pretend to be early onset straight trans women like me because they get off on the idea of being like me and sexualizing me. Meta attraction, to trans women… I trusted them with pics of myself discussing how well I pass, makeup, clothes, skincare, etc, to my regret.

I guess this is more of a rant than me actually seeking sound minded trans people anymore. I would be happy to hear if other people (especially trans women) have been through similar things. But by now I am kind of content w the fact I only have occasional FTMs, gay men, and cis women to confide in. I am only 21 and I’m so exhausted by trans people and communities (even this one can be… silly, let’s say, at times…), it’s become fuel not to meet people like me, but to become fully stealth and just live my life as close to a normal straight woman’s as possible. Forget this shit ever happened. Leave the support in the dust, if this is what it looks like. Do y’all hear me? Should I just give up on it and keep my business to myself?