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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Uneasy_sub on 2023-09-01 03:58:31.

My SO (37m) and I (35f) have a set of boundaries that I thought were understood. One boundary, one of mine in particular, is causing uncomfortable discussions every time it is brought up.

I do not want to be with someone who entertains other women. Not on social media, and I don’t care for the possibility of having a porn addict partner either.

If I am doing all of the wild and crazy things and keeping you drained as much as you have energy for and then some… what is the need?

If I take care of myself, look good, smell good, and make sure to treat you well… why do you need to indulge?

Are there any men who think their partners are really more than enough?

I know people look, I have looked. I don’t feel the need to comment on the attractive men I see.

My biggest issue is we discussed this, and it was clear, and the other thing I hate is lying. I came across some comments made towards online women, and it made me sick to my stomach.

I was told I’m just insecure. Why wouldn’t that make me feel insecure?

There has been no resolve, and every time I try to bring it up… it’s not even addressed. It’s dismissed, and I’m told it will just start a fight, and there’s never a good time for it.

Right now, I’m just frustrated. I got with my SO because I thought we understood each other. I really do love him, but I’m starting to wonder if he respects me at all.

Do men even realize how much it hurts sometimes when they drool over other women?

TLDR: Do I have trust issues, or am I just onto the game? I don’t think SO respects my boundaries regarding other women.