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The original was posted on /r/asoneafterinfidelity by /u/Tasty-Sport-7593 on 2023-07-04 15:46:41+00:00.

Throwaway bc the 2 main people involved know my real account

Backstory: together 7 years total. Married in Fall 2021. For 3 of those years, including times before and after the wedding, my WH had an EA/PA with a longtime female friend. DDay was, infuriatingly, on our engagement anniversary, 10 months after the wedding.

There was a lot of lies in his confession, trickle truth constantly, until we separated for December 22. During December, I reached out to AP for the first time and got almost all of the truth.

WH had admitted on DDay that his Best Man had been made aware of his cheating a few months prior to the confession.

January was spent with WH in a motel, near my work. February was spent with a family member of WH while I recovered from a major surgery.

Due to financial distress, looming homelessness, and absolute desperation to keep my cat with me, I very reluctantly agreed to rent a room with WH in Best Man’s apartment, only because it’s so cheap. I did let it be known before the move in that I would be uncomfortable, that I would likely be triggered frequently, and that I would do my best to keep the peace but could not guarantee I would be okay.

We moved in in March, and turns out there’s also another woman renting the 3rd room. Now, I have nothing against sexual liberation and freedom, casual sex is great for some people.

The problem lies in the Best Man being in a LDR, and I am not close to (but was friendly with) his gf. The woman renting the other room has now become VERY tight with Best Man, to the point I’ve witnessed her doing a “walk of shame” (and I am not attributing actual shame to it, just using the common expression) from his room to hers very early in the morning, several times, while Im getting ready for work. She practically lives in his room now.

Two weeks ago I spoke with AP again. Found out Best Man actually knew about her for OVER A YEAR, which means he stood by WH’s side at our wedding knowing he was unfaithful and said nothing to me, did nothing to stop it.

This is incredibly triggering for me, to the point where I’m actively avoiding going into common areas out of fear that I’ll be triggered by seeing her come out of/ go into his room.

My WH has been saying it’s “not your business” and “we can’t lose our place to live” and all this other stuff that, while some of it has logic (we really can’t afford to look for new housing) the other parts just feel like an absolute “fuck you” directed at me. How is it not my business when it’s literally triggering me? How is it not my business when you made it HIS business by confessing to cheating before you married me? How is it not my business when HE’S DOING TO HIS GIRL WHAT YOU DID TO ME?!

My mental health is spiraling down the drain and it feels like WH is over here jiggling the handle trying to flush me again. I’m drowning and instead of grabbing my hand to pull me up he’s pushing my head further under.

He won’t read a single book. He’s finally caved to therapy but God knows how long that will take to even start. Y’all “changed his mind” but not about the books. Not about watching Affair Recovery.

He makes me feel worthless. I am not worth having a fucking conversation with his best friend. I am not worth any effort on his part.

He really seems to think doing fucking laundry and having Life360 is more than enough.

I’m at my wits end.