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The original was posted on /r/asoneafterinfidelity by /u/VegetableFriend8578 on 2023-07-04 20:21:36+00:00.

Very long story short I, BS had my WS tell me she cheated on me a few months ago. She immediately started R and wanted to fix things. Some time goes by and I find out she still seen him and quick talking to and seeing him for some time but then started again around the anniversary or her dads death. She basically is in limbo trying for me then not for the last couple months. I go through these phases of wanting to try and not ever wanting to again. Usually anxiety and feeling completely lost takes me over and I try again. I met with AP and told him she’s trying for me because he told me he was going to end it. In this time of limbo with me she thinks I’ve recorded her because AP knew she was trying so now she becomes really careful about what she says to me or even texts to me, but I never recorded her and even gave her the opportunity to check my phone or leave it in the other room if she thought I was. Since around Father’s Day I’ve noticed actual effort from her with the things I’ve asked. We have been ok while she still has some limbo of the situation. Anyways AP I guess caught on she was trying with me and told her I met with him again the other day (which I didn’t). To get her to confess she is trying with me. After this I told AP not to include me in his game and some other words that are pretty colorful. He asked to meet me again. I met with him and he admits to lying about meeting me. Even sent it in a text so I could show her that I didn’t lie about that. I told him she has been trying and doing what I’ve asked he said he has noticed and he’s done with her. This was yesterday and so far he actually has (who knows if it will remain this way). Now in this time of limbo she has been really shitty to me, just mean gaslights me, mad at me for nothing, blameshifts a lot. I’m honestly pretty laid back most of the time. I don’t care for arguing. But she says some really mean stuff in this time especially yesterday and today. It has my mind fucked. I don’t say mean shit to her and I don’t want it said to me. Basically said all her “trying” was bullshit, she doesn’t want me it was all fake. My mind is so fucked at this point. It was effort from her, she did the things I’ve asked of her. Even the AP said he thought she would come back to me so why in the world is she being so awful to me now? Can someone help me with these emotions please? What to do or feel I’m lost.