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The original was posted on /r/asoneafterinfidelity by /u/thx_for_nothing on 2023-07-05 00:53:15+00:00.

like many others, my fairy tale love story came crashing down a few weeks ago when i discovered sexual text messages and videos on WH’s phone. he did not reciprocate with his own msgs/videos but engaged in receiving over a few weeks. months later, they met up in person. nothing physical happened between them bc he said he felt disgusted with himself once she was at his house and was no longer sexually attracted to her. he ignored her after that day (proof is in texts).

i feel somewhat guilty posting here considering his offense is significantly more mild compared to others here. my heart breaks for all of us suffering. sometimes i question if this is worthwhile.

we essentially immediately began reconciliation with both parties wanting that. i had several stipulations required and so far he has done some of those, but ive been struggling. i’m struggling to trust that he is going to do everything I’ve asked. i’m struggling to believe that this will never happen again— bc as much as he reassures me that he feels awful about it/it was the worst mistake of his life, i will always always remember what he did.

one of the most painful parts is remembering what he did while also remembering how he acted with me at the same time. he literally lied while planning to have another girl over later that night. i absolutely cannot believe that he intended to have sex with another girl.

any advice or insights? how can i tell if he is being truthful with his promises? is there any hope?