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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Glad-Humor-3865 on 2023-07-04 14:59:06+00:00.
My mother in law (56f) and I (29f) have never fully clicked. We are very different people - I was born and raised in Colombia, she and her family have been in Kansas for generations - but that isn’t an excuse. I have just never felt fully accepted by her. I’ve always believed it’s because culturally and personality-wise I’m much more open and chatty than she is used to.
My husband and I went on a trip to Costa Rica a month ago, and we were talking about the trip at a family gathering on Saturday. A handful of aunts and uncles and cousins were around. I mentioned an amazing hike we took near a river and waterfall, and talked about how my husband (an amateur photographer) got a bunch of really cool photos there. I mentioned how it was a secluded area so I was able to strip down for some of the shots he took of me near the water. I thought that was no big deal to mention.
Well, mother in law wasn’t happy about me dropping that detail. She texted me the next day saying that it was inappropriate to “titillate” everyone with that story, and that her family isn’t used to that kind of thing. I said that I understand her opinion, but in my view being naked for artsy purposes is the kind of thing people should be able to talk about.
My husband is staying out of it for now (although he doesn’t seem to mind having the photos).
AITA? Should I be more sensitive or just continue to be myself?
There may not be a good interpersonal fit here, and cultural differences could be at play … But I would find it quite awkward to talk about pictures my partner took of me naked to my partner’s family.