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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/swtogirl on 2024-07-06 03:16:05+00:00.

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Trigger Warning: Voluntary euthanasia

Mood Spoiler: Sad, but very sweet and wholesome

I don’t have anyone to tell this story to June 13, 2024

I made a friend named Judy (NOT REAL NAME) at a Writing group. She is 95. I am 62. I visited her at her apartment a few times and helped her with her computer and we really hit it off.

She told me that some medication she was taking was making her feel sick, I asked her what it was for. She said she is just riddled with bone cancer.

She published a book of poetry, I went to her book launch party at the beginning of May. She had a friend there named Mike (NOT REAL NAME) who is about my age.

I thought he was a very very attractive man and intelligent.

I went up to Judy and asked her if he was single and she said he was.

(Judy had told me about Mike quite a few times and what a wonderful person he was and what a great friend to her. He is also a writer)

I tried to flirt with him and ask him out but he was chatting with some other woman about publishing. I felt embarrassed so I left.

I received an email yesterday from someone in the Writing Group that we were both in that Judy has made the decision to end her life as she had had a stroke about two weeks ago and has not been well at all in the last month.

(Medical assistance in dying) -completely legal in Canada-

I was shocked to hear this as she was seemingly so well and in great spirits the last time I saw her.

I decided to call her to say goodbye. I phoned her yesterday and we had a lovely chat and she told me that she was very happy with her decision to end her life this Saturday afternoon and that she had family coming to be with her.

We had a good conversation and I told her how much I appreciate her friendship, and I told her I thought that her husband who already passed away would be there to welcome her to the other side. I was sad to think that I will never see my friend Judy again.

I thought that chapter with me and Judy was now closed.

-Just about five minutes ago I received a phone call from Judy. She wanted to give me Mike’s phone number and asked me to call him. Apparently he thought I was also a very nice person and wanted to know more about me! I explained that I had liked him very much I thought he was very attractive and that I had embarrassed myself so I left. Judy thought this was really funny and cute. Apparently I made some kind of impression on him because he mentioned me to Judy several times. She gave me his phone number and asked me to call him and thought that we would be good for each other!

I said I would call him in a week or so.

What a lovely gesture playing matchmaker for two of her friends before she leaves this world.

I have been quite lonely lately and really wanting to have a partner in my life.

Relevant Comments:

spicybunnymeat:

Omg. Call him. So you can give her a final update before passing. What a sweet story!

OOP:

I said I would wait to call him and she agreed that it would be best to wait about a week -

But what if I did call him and things didn’t go well and then I would have to tell her that before she passed -

spicybunnymeat:

Girl. He asked about you… If things don’t go well for some reason( I can’t think of any) you can at least tell your friend you’ve been in contact. I’m sorry for your coming loss, your friend will no doubt be watching over you , whatever happens. Good luck!

I have to go show my daughter this cute story now…you’ve got to update me if things go well 😊

OOP (also posted in a separate post on June 14, 2024, the morning after OP):

UPDATE she called me again this morning and asked me to come to her apartment to pick up an envelope to bring to him and ask him out for lunch and to call him later today.

She said she wants to know what happens!

spicybunnymeat:

I’m sooo excited for you! Try to calm your nerves- just be your lovely self that your friend admires so much…this sounds like the universe has plans for you!

Hello_pet_my_kitty:

Omg I am loving this! Go get that man, girl! And so good on you for supporting your friend during this time. I think it is actually pretty amazing that we are getting to the point of being able to have dignity in the end, and choosing when we are ready to be done. [95] years is a long life and I hope it was just as beautiful as it sounds like Judy is 🖤

2nd Update to Judy the almost heavenly matchmaker June 14, 2024 (1 day after OP, 3 hours after the mini-update in the comments)

Update!! I have the envelope in hand and have arranged to meet him for coffee in one hour. Judy gave me an envelope and wants us to read it together. I am at the coffee shop waiting for him right now. She wants me to report back to her this afternoon!

Relevant Comments:

throwaway4201969:

I JUST saw your first post, and 1# Judy sounds like such a wonderful person ❤️ I think we all need a Judy in our lives! 2# I am waiting with bated breath and on the tips of my toes!!!

This internet stranger has nothing but the best of wants and wishes for you, dear friend!!! I hope you and Mike are just beginning a beautiful love story 💜💜💜💜

DeannaC-FL:

This is the beginning of something so good!

whyfruitflies:

I’m so invested! Tell us how it went.

3rd Update to Judy the almost heavenly matchmaker June 14, 2024 (4 hours later)

I nervously waited for Mike to arrive he was about five minutes late.

When he arrived I explained to him that this was not MY idea and that Judy had asked me to meet him and had called me again and had asked me to bring him the envelope, and open it together.

He said that sounded just like her!

He predicted what was going to be in the envelope.

He told me that he had known her for about 10 years whereas I had only known her for about 8 months.

We talked about our lives and what we had done, jobs, careers, marriage, divorce, kids. Etc

He is a very intelligent, funny attractive man, we seem to be compatible.

He told me that he had said to Judy (when I met him that one time at the book party, )that he had after wards commented to her that I was very forthright and he found that attractive.

At that book launch party I wanted to talk to him more and another woman was capitalizing his attention, talking about some kind of publishing. He apologized for talking to the other lady instead of me, and he said he couldn’t stand her and tried to get away from her to chat with me some more and when he had turned around I was gone.

I told him that I was embarrassed that I had put my foot in it by asking him out and that I just left because I was so embarrassed.

Anyhow we had a great time at the restaurant chatting about pretty much everything in life.

He asked me if I wanted to go to dinner at a pretty nice fancy waterfront restaurant. He asked me if I had been there before and I said I had not. I had to leave because I had to be back at work.

I asked him if he wanted to meet another time to open the envelope and he said “No, I want to open it right now I want to see what she is up to”

So I sat beside him and we opened the envelope together. …

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