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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ihinlyhineinwcsa on 2023-08-30 22:44:53.

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My (32F) husband’s (56M) daughter (28F) and I never had a good relationship but for the sake of my children (9F, 7F, 5F, 2M) her siblings, I always tried to get along with her because I know they really love her and love spending time with her, but she crossed a line a few days ago and brought out the worst in me.

She got divorced a few months ago and was in a very dark place emotionally so we let her live with us until she feels better, but since then she hasn’t stopped acting like a b.*t.ch. She doesn’t help clean the house, doesn’t help cook, doesn’t help with laundry, she doesn’t do anything at all.

The other day I was not feeling well because I’m having a really difficult pregnancy, I feel exhausted and nauseous all the time so since the children were with her I took a nap. When I woke up it was past lunch time and when I went to the kitchen it was completely dirty because she had made pasta, but that was not the worst, the worst thing was that there was only one dish which meant that she had not cooked for my children. So I asked my eldest daughter and she said that her sister told her that she was going to eat and cooked for herself and told them to wait for me to wake up so I can cook for them. And that really pissed me off because we do everything for her and she couldn’t take a minute to cook something simple for her siblings and she couldn’t clean up the mess she made either.

I went to her room and started yelling at her to get out of my house because I’m sick of her, and I don’t know if it was because I was screaming and crying or what, but she just told me to calm down, took some of her things and left. Then I found out from my husband that she was at a friend’s house waiting for me to calm down to come back but I don’t want her here, if she comes back I’ll go and my husband knows that. He is paying her hotel now, and he thinks that she will understand what she did wrong and that she will change, but that’s not gonna happen I mean, it has been twelve years since we were together and she always hated me and i doubt she will magically change now.

So AITA for kicking her out and not letting her come back?

EDIT: I’m not “lazy” as many of you say, I have hyperemesis gravidarum and there are days when I can’t even get out of bed, but I still do it because I do all the household chores by myself. Of course my husband helps a lot too but it’s not enough since the kids do sports and he spends most of his time taking them to training and to the games. And her daughter does nothing, I clean her room, wash her clothes (even her underwear) and cook for her every day.At first I didn’t told her anything because I knew she was sad and having a bad time but then i told her to help me because i really feel bad but she never help me to do anything.