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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Subject_Shoulder_538 on 2023-09-01 02:21:20.

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I (F30’s) have a friend “Ashley” (F30’s). Ashley and I have been friends since we were 13. We drifted apart after high school but stayed in touch.

Ashley is disabled. She has fibromyalgia.

We planned to go on a short vacation together to the city which was Ashley’s idea, we planned this over a year in advance to stay for 3 nights.

The actual vacation was okay but I found being around Ashley stressful. She extremely overpacked (she brought 7 outfits, different types of hair dryers, and a bunch of other stuff that just wasn’t needed) and was always complaining about how heavy her bags are. She insisted on going for long walks through the city but then would get tired and say we need to get a taxi home as she can’t walk back.

The last straw for me was that Ashley had a full-on meltdown at the station. I walked her to the station (I wasn’t getting the train back, we live in completely different areas).

We got to the desk and she asked the staff if there was a wheelchair available she could use as she was struggling to walk any further to get to her platform. They said they were all being used and asked if she booked assistance and she hadn’t, and they told her a chair should be available in around an hour. Ashley lost her cool and yelled at them and said that she’s going to miss her train, and she sat on the floor. I tried to calm her down but there was just no use. She was very insulting and called them names, it was so embarrassing.

I stayed with Ashley and eventually the manager arrived with the chair. He helped Ashley and she went home.

2 days after we got home, Ashley asked me if I’d be down for a similar vacation next year. I told her no thanks. I tried to explain to her that I think after our experience it’s better if we don’t vacation together. Ashley is now angry with me and said I’m being ableist but I struggle to put up with how disorganised she is in regards to her own needs.