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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/gulghy on 2023-09-05 09:51:06.
Hi, disclaimer english isn‘t my first langauge and i am writing this on mobil.
To start things off i (m29) and three of my friends booked us a weekend trip (Friday - Sunday) a few weeks ago. It‘s my first time off since the beginning of may, to say i am thrilled is an understatement. We plan to party at night and chill at the pool by day.
I also told my brother (43) and my SIL (39) a few weeks ago that i was really excited to stay in this specific hotel since it is on the pricier end.
Yesterday my Brother contacted me that they will be staying in the same Hotel with my niece (4) at same time as me.
In the message he wrote me that they are also really excited that i can help with my niece since i am also there and they can relax in the meantime and according to them i have nothing better to do. Do not get me wrong i love my niece to pieces, but i really want to enjoy this Weekend and not have any responsibility for anyone besides myself. I want to relax, be drunk and have fun with my friends. They are staying in the same hotel so i can‘t avoid them even if i wanted to.
The vacation is not refundable. I am either stuck with babysitting(her parents are really pushy and i am the worst at setting boundaries) or my family will think i hate my niece. I am frustrated af.
So AITA if i tell them i don‘t want to spend time with them?
No but you may have limited options. I would explain to them exactly what you stated here - you plan on getting drunk, relax, and have fun with friends. That doesn’t mix with babysitting.
Hopefully they appreciate your situation. If they can’t, then you will have to decide which is more important in the long term.