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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Crazycatplantlady22 on 2023-09-13 12:34:12.

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My husband (M 40) and I (F 36) have been married for almost 12 years and we have a child (M 6).

This past Saturday was my husband’s 40th. I arranged everything and asked my MIL to give a short speech. She started off well talking about his childhood etc, then his studies and then about the amazing grandchild HE gave her. Not a single mention of me or his marriage. She spent the next 10min talking about a female friend he grew up with, how amazing she was and how she is the daughter MIL always wanted, even bursting into tears.

After the speech my husband was really upset, but I told him to forget about it for now and enjoy his party. I had almost each person at the party come to me and say WTF was that and how sorry they were for me.

When we got home we started talking and I became very upset to the point that I sent my MIL an emotional message about how she hurt me. Her response was she did nothing wrong and it was all in my head. She even said I am threatend by this female friend of his, which I am certainly no. The next day, on my husband birthday, she sent a message saying she is done with me, basically kicking me out of the family.

My husband has gotten involved but she still does not seem to get what she did wrong. He even said to her that if a stranger would hear that speech they would have thought the female friend was his wife.

I have decided I will accept nothing other than an apology from her, then we can move on. Now I am wondering AITA because this is taking a heavy toll on my husband, he has always been very close with him mom and hates conflict.

Im starting to wonder if I should have just shut my mouth and taken the disrespect from MIL?