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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/sarahdragon26 on 2023-09-17 06:46:02.

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Allow me to explain so no one thinks I am discriminating. I answered an ad online for a personal assistant that would help with filing and small errands. When the lady in question called me, she explained she had several problems, but I thought since I was just helping her with paperwork, they would not be a problem.

I met her Wednesday for my first day. She is wheelchair bound. She sprayed me with hand sanitizer right away, asking me to wear sleeves on my shoes, and don’t touch anything. I was really confused because how could help her with paperwork if I couldn’t touch anything. Then she said that my first job was to do her laundry, help her with her hair, mop the floors, then take her to the doctor. Now I am really confused because she mentioned none of this in the phone call.

Long story short, I drove her to two different doctors, the dmv, the food store, and several other places. Wasted half a tank of gas. I told her that I could only work until 6 or 7. Well, at 630, I was still waiting for her at the last doctor. I told her that I needed to go home, but she asked if my husband could make dinner for him and my son so I could continue to help her. I finally got out of there at 8pm and I was exhausted and furious.

I felt used. I did everything she asked me to because i wanted to help her, but she took advantage of me. I am currently seeing a physical therapist for an injury and she asked me to reschedule all my appointments to accommodate her. I said no.

To make matters worse, she wants me to drive 10 miles under the speed, she reached over to honk the horn if a car drove beside us (which i told her not to touch the wheel of my car), and wants me to roll through stop signs instead of stopping. I have NEVER felt so uncomfortable in my life.

Then today, after telling her in texts that I could no longer work for her, she begged to rethink my choice and tried to guilt me in working for her today. When I continued to tell her no, she turned aggressive and argumentative. In total, I think she sent me 10 to 12 messages and all them calling me all kinds of names. Telling me I was a lair and a cruel person. She has since changed her cragslist job post since she accused me of everything under the sun.

The reason why I feel terrible is because she told me goes to the church for food when she doesn’t have money to buy food and that her money goes to doctors. Her apartment is basically empty expect for a couch, a bed, and a few other things. I wanted to help someone in need, but I feel so used and angry for allowing someone like her to get to me.

AITA?

Edit: In my text to her on how I couldn’t work for her, I told her the reasons why and she continued to try to guilt me, then accused me of being a terrible person.