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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ill-Research3290 on 2023-09-17 23:36:52.
My bf (23m) and I (23F) been together for 6 years. I always preferred short haircut on guys, and I don’t like long hair on guys because it just seems messy to me. My bf has known this since the beginning we’ve been together. Last year I wanted to dye my hair red, but my bf hates the color red and was urging me not to. Basically saying he wouldn’t be attracted to me if I dyed my hair red. I was disappointed, but he kept his hair short since that was my preference, so why wouldn’t I do the same for him. Well recently this year he’s been growing out his hair. I asked him when he was going to get a haircut, and he said he’s trying to grow out his hair a bit. I responded back “well don’t grow it out too long because you know how I feel about long hair on guys”. Months passed and his hair is way past his shoulders now. I personally think his hair is covering his handsome face, and it makes him look messy and not put together. I voiced to him again that I really preferred if he gets a haircut. He snapped at me saying it’s his hair, and he can do what he want which I responded back well I guess I’ll dye my hair red then. I only said that because I was upset with this double standard. He can whatever he wants to his hair, but I can’t?? Anyways that made him even more mad claiming it’s different. AITA?
See the problem here is that he doesn’t want your hair red because he wouldn’t be attracted to you and he needs to be attracted to you if he wants to fuck you but he doesn’t need you to be attracted to him for him to fuck you.
That is a you problem not a him problem.
It is a double standard and he can go fuck himself while you find someone better to fuck.