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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sensitive_R on 2023-09-19 05:45:51.
My wife and I have been married for many years, but before we got married, I had built up a substantial wealth. When we got married, I opted for a prenuptial agreement and complete separation of assets. She also had a significant pre-marital wealth.
Besides the house we currently live in, I still own a beautiful apartment in the same city that I usually rent out, but it’s currently vacant.
Over the past two years, we’ve had many discussions about moving to a smaller town and getting a house near the beach. Two months ago, we bought the house for our upcoming move. We’ve already made the renovations we wanted, bought furniture, and will be moving into the new house soon.
Since we won’t be living in this city anymore, I didn’t see a reason to keep the house we currently live in and sold it without notifying my wife. Considering it’s solely my asset, I didn’t see the need to inform her in advance. Plus, selling and buying property is always a stressful process.
On the day I finalized the sale, I told her that I had sold the house, and she was furious with me for not letting her know. She mentioned that she still needs a residence in this city and intends to come here frequently. I explained to her that I still have the apartment, which we can use whenever we need to be in the city, so there shouldn’t be an issue.
She remains upset with me, claiming that I didn’t treat her like a wife by not involving her in such an important decision. On the other hand, I believe I didn’t leave her without an address in the city, and the house was always exclusively my asset, just as she has her own wealth. She argues that it’s a completely different situation because it’s the house we’ve been living in, and we’re moving in the next few days.
AITA?
It is odd that so many people are calling this person the asshole. They just moved into a new house. What did she think he was going to do with the previous house? Just keep it forever? You move into a new house, you usually sell the old one just because he’s rich and already kept an apartment, why should he keep the house too?
Few options: like rent it out sell it to a family member Open up a hostel Maybe do some house Flipping to increase value then sell it. Point is doing major decisions without telling wife is breach of trust. Didn’t matter if end result is the same. The concern is if you don’t tell me about X are you going to tell me about Y. Any Crack in trust is hard to repair.
The guy is an ass because his marriage is like a business to him not a relationship. She would be better off treating it like one too and split the business now that the reason for the business is complete and the children are out of the house.
Maybe she just wanted to lie with her back on the floor in the empty house and experience her thankful memories of the place their marriage grew for years.
It’s not that he sold the house. It’s that he sold the house without discussing it with her.
You discuss important things with your spouse, period. The sale of a house is a big deal, especially if it’s a house you’ve lived in.