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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aljianatheartist on 2023-10-01 12:35:57.

I work with a guy that told us right away that he is autistic in order for us not to question his unusual behavior, like his special interest in barbie dolls. There is nothing wrong with that and we respect him at work as one of us, but he can be a little “too much” sometimes. It’s nearly impossible to have an actual conversation with him that doesn’t involve the dolls or his diagnosis. My friends and I (23m) were talking about our plans for Friday night. We wanted to go out for drinks at a nice cocktail bar. Suddenly he invited himself. We tried to hint that we didn’t agree with that but he didn’t understand it. We tried explaining politely, trying to find excuses: We told him that we already booked, so he called the place and reserved for himself, we told him that our cars are already full so he called his mom and asked her for a ride… it was just impossible to tell him nicely. So I straight up told him: “We don’t want you to come with us”. He looked devastated and started crying. My other friends call me TA even if they also didn’t want him to come along. And honestly, I feel absolutely horrible.

EDIT: Only he is my coworker. He doesn’t know my other friends.

EDIT: We were discussing plans on a video call while I was waiting for the bus after work and he overheard it. This is why I had to be the one to tell him no.