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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Bob_slug on 2023-10-03 22:21:27.
You see it everyday on this sub. Several times per day.
- My bf does nothing at home I’m stuck with every chore. How do I communicate to him that I’m exhausted?
- My bf keeps grabbing my boobs even though I repeatedly tell him to stop. How do I communicate to him that it hurts me?
- My bf is sexting with women online. How do I make him understand that I don’t feel respected?
Girl, girl. I’ve been there. I’ve been the “if I take some time and draw out a plan and don’t antagonize him it’ll all work out”. The inconfortable truth is they know. They know they hurt you or make you uncomfortable but it’s a price they’re willing to pay to do whatever they want.
You can’t talk someone into not abusing you. You can’t explain respect to people who repeatedly trample your boundaries. You deserve so, so, so much better. If you’re exhausted, it’s for a good reason.
He’s not a perfect husband “except for this”. He’s not a great guy with “angry outbursts”. He fucking knows that houses need to get cleaned. You wouldn’t tolerate that in yourself, why are you tolerating it with the one person who’s supposed to have your back?
Please, stop trying to communicate with people who are actually counting on you always talking and never acting. Please protect yourselves.
That is all. This sub really makes me sad sometimes.