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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/AdRelative130 on 2023-10-03 22:21:51.

Throw away account. The title is pretty clear. I don’t think I’m in the wrong, but I could use a second opinion because I’m getting really annoyed with the drama.

Basic context, I (18f) just got into a really good college. I’m there right now, sitting on my dorm room bed typing this. I have a cousin (18m) that also wanted to attend this particular school. He’d been talking about it since we were in middle school. He was absolutely positive he would get in, but didn’t.

Supposedly, my cousin had a full on freak out when he got rejected, but I wasn’t there for that. He got his email a few days before I got mine. My parents were overjoyed that I’d gotten in, and with a big scholarship, but as soon as my uncle, aunt, and cousin heard, they jumped on me immediately. Calls, texts, showing up to my parents house uninvited, trying to convince me to give my spot to my cousin. He was livid that I was accepted but he wasn’t. I told him it was probably because I had a bunch of extra curriculars and he didn’t because he thought they were a “waste of valuable study time”. He said I didn’t work as hard as him or get as good of grades as him and didn’t deserve to go to this college but he couldn’t. I told him tough shit, that’s life, and he screamed that I’d probably just drop out anyways because I won’t be able to handle it like he would. It got to the point that I just left my phone off and exclusively used my laptop for about a week because they wouldn’t stop bugging me. Once they figured out they wouldn’t get me to give my cousin my acceptance (because I literally can’t, that’s not how acceptance works) they started trying to convince me to go to a different school. Since apparently this one “can’t actually be all that good if they couldn’t even recognize a talented and smart person like my cousin”. And that I’d probably be much happier at some other school.

This went on until the day I left for school three weeks ago. The day I left my cousin actually came to my parents house just before I left and told me flat out that if I really went through with this we weren’t family anymore because he “doesn’t want to be related to someone that would be so willing to steal his dreams” (actual quote). I told him okay and got in my car. Now I’m all set up in my dorm, my roommate is fun as heck, classes are going well, and I’m really happy. My cousin still keeps posting angsty junk on his Instagram about dreams being false and hard work being BS that doesn’t get you anywhere. It’s annoying.

So what do you guys think? Should I have gone to a different school? AITA?