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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/meandurmom83 on 2023-10-03 13:07:34.

I was on a birthday party of a friend. On our way back to the hotel I was sitting in the back seat with a male friend (we’ve known each other for a year or so). He was a lil drunk I think but it didn’t rly show all that much. We had a regular conversation before that and I never implied that I want anything more than a friendship. I’m super sensitive when it comes to touch and therefore obviously not very touchy (neither is he I’d say, I think we barely had any physical contact in the year we’ve known each other). I noticed him looking at me a few times and ignored it. When I leaned forward to talk to my friend who was driving so did he. I leaned back into my seat because I wasn’t comfortable. At this point I’m avoiding all eye contact and just looking forward. After some time I lean forward because I wanted the friend driving to sing along to a song and I thought he’d hear it better that way. All of a sudden the male friend next to me puts his hand on my lower back (his hand rested on the left side of my waist- he sat on the right side next to me and his arm was around my lower back). I froze and couldn’t do anything. I got nervous and very uncomfortable. There was no warning, nothing. This went on for 3 minutes. That same friend had just gotten out of a relationship a few months ago. He was known as the “green flag” who was very pro women’s rights etc. Quite ironic. When we arrived he finally took his arm away and I instantly fell back into my seat. I freaked out when my other friend got out of the car and we were alone. He didn’t say anything about the situation and I tried to find an excuse to also get out of the car. Once I was out of the car ready to close the door he asks “was that uncomfortable, the situation in the car?”. I couldn’t respond properly and just closed the door. After a few minutes we were all back in the car. He took a bit longer to come back (he also left the car some moments after I did) and when he got in he randomly tapped my leg for a second. I couldn’t wait for us to get to the hotel and once we did I avoided him. Even now I don’t really respond to his messages all that much. I don’t know if I’m overreacting but I don’t want to see him or talk to him.

Edit: apparently he boasted to everyone else about how he rizzed me up and definitely wants something from me (sounded quite sexual something along the lines of he wants to have sexual Intercourse with everyone that’s running around on two legs)

Another edit: I confronted him and it ended with him trying to convince me he asked twice beforehand, that I definitely said yes to him doing all of that and that he would never do something like that without consent. Implied that I’ll end the friendship and he ended up getting irritated that I wasn’t taking his apology (“I’m sorry you felt this way”) seriously.