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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Early-Retirement-22 on 2023-10-03 22:31:07.

A few weeks ago, I made a post about refusing to help pay for my SIL’s daughter’s wedding. My entire family backed me and my brother apologized. But SIL is still pretty pissed. She offered me a chance to make up for it.

Her brother was arrested for dealing crystal meth and weapons possession. She calls him my brother in law, but he is not related to me as far as I can tell. She wants me to fly across the country, post his $20,000 bail and being him back to his home.

Do I have time to do this, yes. Can I afford to do this, yes. Am I going to do this, no. As far as I can tell, he is a criminal and belongs in jail. She says I am an AH because I won’t help “family” and won’t make up for not paying for the wedding. I say there is nothing to make up for and that I would be willing to call his public defender and try to get him a plea deal with a drug treatment plan. AITA for refusing to help him?