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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowRAGlitte-1117 on 2023-10-04 05:55:14.

My wife and I have been married for 7 years, we are in our early 30s.

She rejoined work a few months ago after mat leave and has a new coworker in her team. She immediately thought he was weird and tried to keep her distance but he was pushy. Over the past couple of months, he’s started flirting with her, complimenting the way she dresses, says things like “the view from my desk is fantastic” while looking at her.

I want to be clear that I 100% trust my wife. But she’s getting upset about his comments. I told her to go speak to HR or to speak to this guy directly and tell him to stop. But she keeps making excuses. I got pretty upset at her and told her it’s clearly affecting her and it’s annoying she isn’t doing something to address it. She says I’m an asshole for getting upset at her without understanding why she can’t do it.

What do I do? Am I the asshole?