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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/MT722 on 2023-10-04 14:31:42.
Hi, I(F22) went to the OB Gyn for concerns down there after my hemorrhoidectomy (infection, either yeast, UTI or BV, since my butt’s been leaking fluids post op and maybe that’s what’s caused me to have inflamed, itchy urethra and vag with cheesy-textured discharge). The ObGyn looked like she was probably in her 50s, and she’s most likely used to only having visits from pregnant women (and rarely for other concerns). It’s…actually quite common public knowledge here that only pregnant women go to the public OB-Gyn, so if you go there and your not preggers there could be some judgement. Anything sex-related [vocalized] is still pretty much taboo so that says a lot, I guess. Thus, most women probably just go to private clinics to avoid gossip, or try to deal with the problems themselves at home.
- For extra context: Our public hospitals offer free health care. We just have to wait in line in the OPD for check-ups, and since not a lot can really afford specialist care, there’s always a long line. I couldn’t afford a private clinic, so I went there. The line was long enough that I arrived at 8am and got the see the doctor at 3pm.
Once I got in her office, I voiced my concerns, and she asked the standard questions. They were quite fast paced so I matched it, and I was a tad nervous, especially since she looked quite strict. I said a hesitant “yes” to the question. I didn’t know if answers other than yes or no are acceptable. Now I’m thinking maybe I should’ve given a “not often” answer. I’ve only had my first time the month before, really. And while I do masturbate, I don’t put more than two fingers in there so I’m still not used to being stretched, especially not at once
Afterwards, she had me lie down in the bed She put on her gloves and put her finger in without hesitation; started poking around inside, turning. She was kind of a bit rough with it, I felt her kind of digging in, and it was quite a big finger. I heard a soft scold from her, “just relax yourself”, cuz I must’ve automatically tensed lol.
The day after, I was checking out my butt wound with a hand mirror, and since there was still a bit of stinging feeling from my vag, I checked that out too and saw a tear…
It’s not really a cause for concern, the tear was small. Just about 4 milimeters long. But it did cause discomfort for a couple days.
Does that happen often from ObGyn visits and check ups, and I’m just getting worked up about a normal occurence? I feel like I don’t want to be checked again so soon tho…
TLDR: I had my first OBGyn visit, but she must’ve thought I was [very] sexually active so she was a bit rough with me, and I got a tear.