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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Desperate-Word-1130 on 2023-10-04 20:48:18.

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My partner’s (both in mid 30s, we share a home) parents gave my partner the beloved family cabin. They had the opportunity to buy a smaller cabin nearby from a friend and as it is mostly just the mother using it, a smaller place made sense. They didn’t want to get rid of the original, mostly due to sentimental value as the mother LOVES it. The only discussion about the cabin was, “Would you want it?”; “Yes.”; “OK, we’ll take the value out from any inheritance with your siblings.” There was some legal/tax stuff of course, but no other discussions.

I understand the cabin was a gift to partner, I am not on the title, but as we spend time there together, I wanted to de-clutter (with partner’s unequivocal OK). Specifically, I got a new couch as the original was from the 90s; got new table cloths; got rid of a lot of random furniture covering; and boxed up all the knick-knacks just laying about. I’m talking dozens of random plastic bits that no one knows the origins of, a bowling pin(?), broken ping pong handles, toy parts, so many coasters, so many mugs holding more random bits. I didn’t touch any hung photos or other furniture.

His mother comes by and notices the changes. She’s upset. I tell her I kept everything so she can take it, but she just goes on to say that it’s supposed to be at the old cabin. She tells me that we needed to ask permission.

WITAH for de-cluttering the beloved family cabin my partner now owns?