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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ZeCerealKiller on 2023-10-04 23:57:24.

We hosted a dinner party where we had relatives from both of our families over. I am a sous chef and I’m very proud of my work, as I work in one of the most prestigious restaurants in the city. We had 11 people and I asked about dietary requirements and what people wants to eat. Everyone was fine with a risotto and didn’t want anything else. They all said they want to try mine as the restaurant I work at often gets praised and we are known for our authentic Italian food.

When the guests showed up, one of my wife’s uncle brought a frozen pizza over. Stating “I don’t eat risotto, I don’t do carbs”. He had over 2 days to inform me about his dietary requirements and I could also whip something out very last minute if needed. At the end of the night, my wife asked what was wrong and I told her I thought it was very rude of her uncle, to show up with his own frozen pizza and told me he don’t do rice because he doesn’t touch carbs (because apparently there’s no carbs in frozen pizzas). And he didn’t bother trying it and much rather have his frozen pizza.

She said I was over reacting and shouldn’t be mad or offended. I spent time and effort on making a very nice risotto for everyone (with the starters, wine, mains and dessert that I prepared, the cost would be around £70 each if they ate at my restaurant) and if he wanted something else, I would’ve been more than happy to make a pizza from scratch for him. It’s not difficult.

So AITA for being offended and think it’s rude that he brought his own food to a dinner party and gave me a random BS excuse? Because it’s the same principle for restaurants, if you bring your own food to a restaurant, they would ask you to leave.

Edit: my mom, step dad and cousin in law all think it was very rude for what he did and quite disrespectful to the host of the party. I also wanted to tell him to go back home with his frozen pizza, but didn’t.

Edit 2: seems like lots of people are getting lost midway through.

  1. The reason I’m offended and mad, is because he gave me a bs excuse.
  2. I asked everyone if there were dietary requirements. There were and worked around their needs.
  3. He told me he wanted to try my risotto and had no allergies nor food related issues.
  4. He is not a fussy eater.

Edit 3: even though I was mad, I didn’t say anything to him. Cooked his damn frozen pizza (and no, I was nice enough to not burn it) I enjoyed the dinner party with all the other guests. Even the uncle’s daughter and wife told him it’s rude to bring a pizza to someone’s dinner party as a guest and he shouldn’t.