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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Real-Appointment-689 on 2023-10-05 01:26:05.

I have a significant trauma associated with the act of tossing a baby in the air and catching them. When I was a child, I witnessed a terrible accident related to this. My cousin was about 6 months old, and his father was playing with him like that. However, he slipped from his father’s hands and fell headfirst to the ground. He suffered a brain hemorrhage and was left with permanent disabilities. He never walked, talked, or developed normally again.

I’ve never forgotten that scene and have always been afraid that it could happen to my child. He is 4 months old, and I want to protect him from everything. So, I asked my husband never to engage in this play with him. I explained the reason, and he agreed. He said he understood and wouldn’t do it.

But yesterday, I caught him doing it secretly. I had gone to the bathroom, and when I returned, I saw him tossing our baby in the air and laughing. I was terrified, and I yelled at him to stop. He was startled and said I was overreacting, that he knew what he was doing, that he wouldn’t let our child fall. He claimed it was just a game, that our baby enjoyed it, and that he was having fun.

I got furious and argued with him. I told him he was being irresponsible, putting our child at risk, and disrespecting my wishes. I said he had no awareness of the danger, that he could seriously hurt our child, even kill him. I said he had no right to do this, that he should listen to me, that I knew what I was talking about.

He got offended and argued that I was being paranoid. We had a big fight, and we’re not talking to each other right now. I feel terrible. I just want what’s best for our child, but did I overreact? AITA?