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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/InevitableNormal4437 on 2023-10-05 05:42:47.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months and started having sex around a month ago. Before him, I was a virgin. He, on the other hand, has had his fine share of sexual experiences.

Anyways, in the beginning I thought the main problem was me, because I was much less experienced. Now, looking at it, I have been doing everything I can to give him a nice time, but he isn’t helping much.

For instance, we only have sex when I initiate it, and I do it roughly 90% of the time. When we are doing it, I try including some dirty talk, I offer him blow jobs, make eye contact, go on top and try different positions.

When I don’t know how to do a position properly, I guide his hands through my body to help me out, or openly ask for his help. He helps for a little bit then goes back to just laying there.

Also, sex ends when he cums, and I’ve never had an orgasm with him. He has tried, but we both gave up after we spent nearly 2 hours getting my body ready with absolutely no results.

I tried vocalising that in various ways… by joking around, by explicitly telling him what I want or hinting it in a subtle way, but we still don’t have good sex. What should I do?