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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/CreativeInitial2 on 2023-10-05 16:11:15.

My exhusband and I have been divorced for 11 months now and the current arrangement for custody is one week on/one week off with alternating holidays. Earlier this year, my exhusband had a work trip out of town so he asked me to watch our daughter that week. No problem. We agreed that I would keep her the the two weeks (my week and then his week), and when he came back he would pick her up from me and we would rotate back like normal so that the schedule wouldn’t have to shift. When he came back, he pitched a fit about wanting to keep her an extra week not because he wanted to spend the time with her, but because the way the current schedule was laid out he couldn’t go to a music festival to see his favourite band. I wanted to fight him on it because it didn’t seem like a valid reason to fuck with our kids schedule but oh well. I just notated it and let it happen.

So now we’re up to the present. There’s been a stomach bug going around. The child was sick and I was sick all last week but we made it. She went to her dad’s on Sunday and he ended up calling me on Tuesday asking me to keep her this week because he’s really I’ll (even though the doctor said it’s the cold) and basically can’t keep her. I agreed and am keeping her this week handling her pick ups and drop offs at daycare and taking her to her activities. No big deal. The problem comes in where he’s asked if I would be willing to let him keep her next week since he is missing this week. I told him absolutely not because her schedule has already been swapped once it wouldn’t be fair to her to swap it again. He called me vindictive and said that I’m trying to keep her away from him because will basically be with me for a whole month because of this. I reminded him that he made the choice to send her to me because of a cold.

The only reason why I’m sticking to my guns here is because when I’ve asked him to give me mild concessions such as this and they were only begrudgingly accepted while also small rants of “his schedule being disrupted” gets tossed at me passive aggressively. So aita?