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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/cat_meow69 on 2023-10-05 16:38:26.

Caught my boyfriend in a lie unbeknownst to him. Last week, he said he had an event for work which is not out of the ordinary. I forgot he had his location shared with me and as I was going back to find a pic that had been previously sent, I was able to see where he was. At that time he was at a bar. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, I thought maybe he met up with his mom for dinner between engagements. He then went to another restaurant that’s near his apartment. While he was there, he mentioned to me over text that he’s ready for the event to be over so he can go home. For the record, the event I’m referring to would not be held at either of these locations! He played off the evening as if he had work, his work event, and then went home.

To coincide with this, we’ve barely been intimate with each other, which is out of the ordinary. We generally have sex at least once a day whenever we’re with each other. I spent four days with him and we only had sex once. Again, this is unusual behavior. I don’t know if I’m just getting in my head, but even the way he looks at me is different. Like the loving, longing stare I grew familiar to has been replaced with a look of uncertainty.

I’m typically really direct and if something is bothering me I address it. This felt different though for some reason. I guess since I felt as if I was snooping on his location without him knowing. So I haven’t mentioned anything yet. After listening to Lemonade, I know I need to say something. “What’s worst, looking jealous or crazy? Or like being walked all over lately? I’D RATHER BE CRAZY!” It’s been eating me alive for a week now and it’s made my mind wander to some extreme conclusions. I’ve previously voiced to him that I don’t fuck with dishonesty in relationships (I think I can say this for most people). So he’s aware of my feelings towards lying. I suppose I’m here to seek advice on how to address this. I try to practice but there’s just so much I want to unload on him I’m scared I’ll word vomit and not get my point across clearly. That’s all for now. Suggestions welcomed <3