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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/LifeAd7593 on 2023-10-05 02:21:34.

My bf and I (both 35) have only had sex 3 times in the 3 months we’ve been dating. The first time we slept together, it was great. However, it’s come to the point where he won’t try to initiate intimacy at all. Instead, he basically just puts his dick in my face for a BJ… no romancing, no foreplay, nothing. And he almost never finishes even when I do everything I can to get him off (even going up to an hour) but at the end, he will roll over, finish himself off with his hand, and then go to sleep without any attempts to satisfy me in any way. Day after day. Then I will hear him jerking off all night long, even in his sleep. He says he jerks off multiple times a day and he’s so used to it that he can’t finish any other way.

I have a very high sex drive so this is very frustrating for me. I’ve talked to him about it and we’ve since had sex 2 more times but he didn’t finish either time. He’s by no means out of shape but says sex is “too much work” for the guy and even took breaks in between intercourse (literally laying down and resting) before getting up again for another BJ to continue intercourse. Eventually he just finishes himself off by masturbating. He’s recently suggested going on a 30 day masturbation/BJ/sex hiatus (as if we even have sex…) because he heard that will help “normalize” things…

I was curious if anyone else has experienced something like this or what your thoughts were about this issue.