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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TellNo5035 on 2023-10-05 18:27:42.

I (f32) work as an interpreter (don’t worry when you see my atrocious grammar, I don’t interpret from/to English, it’s my 3rd language). One of my work colleagues, Hannah (f, late 30s) asked me the other day what my plans for the weekend were. I replied that I was going to the woods with my club to shoot some arrows and I had ballet class on Sunday. She was taken aback at that and asked me “how many hobbies do you fucking have?” Swearing is something she does a lot so it didn’t sound any alarm bells in my head so I replied that a few. She heard me speak about my classes before when I was asked about evening plans or when I said no to going to a pub after work.

Despite my reply, she wouldn’t drop it and wanted me to list all the classes I do. So I told her that I took Italian classes, ballet beginners classes, archery, pan flute classes, and swimming. She asked, what about your volunteering, did you stop that. I said no, I still do it twice a week. And that’s when she said “this is why you’re single.”

That surprised me. I’ve never complained about being single, I’m quite content with that so I don’t know where that came from. I asked her about that and she just said I’m trying to relieve my high school days and no guy would want a woman that runs around in the woods with arrows and then pounces like a child in a tutu in adult beginners ballet class.

Could I have been more polite? Sure, but she annoyed me. I told her to “fuck off” and I left the room.

Now, she’s telling everyone what an asshole I am and that she was only trying to give me advice because I’m immature and will be single forever if I don’t get my shit together.

It’s been almost a week and now, she’s got some of the ladies on her side and they’re side eyeing me, one even twirled like a ballerina (badly) behind my back as I was leaving the lunch room. With so many people agreeing with her, I need to double check if I was right to tell her what I did. Did I overreact, was I the asshole in the situation? AITA?