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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/SufficientFalcon4827 on 2023-10-05 12:43:07.

My (23f) boyfriend (22m) have only been going out for a few months. We were both virgins when we met, but I have more experience than he has. He hasn’t done anything with anyone else before. So when we started doing activities like hand jobs or blow jobs I thought it might be a bit quicker, however I realized it would go on for 40mins-2hours until I eventually would just give up, and he would get himself off. I felt really bummed I couldn’t get him off, but he suggested that it might be because we aren’t doing anything penetrative. I have issues with penetration so it’s harder for me to do, but this motivated me to hopefully get over it. We eventually were able to have penetrative sex, though it causes me discomfort and some pain, he still didn’t get off. He was really into it, but he simply couldn’t come. He then suggested he might have a kink and that if I wore something to do with that, he might get off. So when I did that, I thought all would be good, but once again he didn’t come. He has never come from me, he just comes when he jerks himself off. At first I thought maybe it was related to being nervous, but this has been going on for so long, and it’s so discouraging to be going at it for 1-2hours doing multiple activities and he still doesn’t get off. I don’t even get off anymore because I just fall out of the mood after awhile. He has mentioned about being a avid porn viewer growing up and about the death grip. But I have no idea how to fix this. I have suggested he possibly go to a sex therapist or maybe a doctor to get a referral. But when he called the doctor they said to try penetrative sex. I just feel awful because everything else in our relationship is great, but we are both being left unsatisfied in the bedroom.