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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Ambitious-Leg5576 on 2023-10-05 18:24:55.

So I (33f) I’m part of a geek group and single for a while now. Went for a meet up where we watch the creator and after that went to a local pub to chat - one of the guys who I’ve known for a while asked if I was single because he had a friend who was single and looking for a relationship. Why we match - well similar hobbies, introverts, I’m quite independent and apparently he needs someone like me.

So I agreed to a intro date (quick meet up for about 30th a - 1hour to see if we’d get along on an actual date) after a lot of talking and selling of said friends positive points -so I went on this date yesterday after work he looked like his picture(so no catfishing) but the closer he got to me the more I knew and confirmed this cannot work because he stinks, like seriously stinks, 3 day old wet socks stink, smells like cex (for those in the uk you know the smell) like greasy hasn’t had a shower, what is soap, doesn’t know what a deodorant smells like etc.

I’m highly sensitive to smell and I actually had a vertigo spell (which I get from strong scents). He asked if was okay and where I wanted to go, so I suggested a roof top bar which I’m familiar with once we got there I sat next to the herb planters but that smell was too strong that it overpowered rosemary thyme and lavender. He took his jacket of and offered to me because I had goosebumps and I stated that’s okay my skins normally like this - could not tell him you stench is so bad I’m getting goosebumps and trying not to pass out.

I had one soft drink to be polite (paid for it) and used the lean in (hold breath) lean back (breathe out) approach he offered to buy my second drink but I had to refuse because I had to go home soon due to work. Chatted then left after 30 mins (can’t tell you what we talked about because I was focused on trying not to breathe him in) I said my byes he tried to hug me but I said I’m not okay with physical contact yet - once I got in my car I could breathe again got home toss my clothes in the wash and had a hot shower.

Got a text from my friend stating the guy really liked me and would love a weekend date - it’s a no for me. A massive no because there’s no was a 38 year old hasn’t heard of soap before he stinks really bad. Still haven’t replied to my friend. Help