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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Jellysandwhichh on 2023-10-06 01:36:45.

Throwaway acc bc my husband follows my main

I’ll try my best to not make this long. I honestly don’t know even where to start, this whole situation has left me feeling embarrassed and frustrated. My husband(27) and I(26) have been together for 7 years and married for 3. Long story short, my MIL has always hated me and always made harsh statements about my appearance. I always brushed it off and gave a simple nod to her comments never trying to give her the reaction she wants. For the past couple of weeks my MIL has been making remarks about my daughter’s appearance and how she doesn’t resemble my husband(for context, i’m hispanic and my husband is white). Ive tried explaining how genetics work and it always ends up with her acussing me of sleeping around.

This has made me completely upset and i’ve tried speaking to my husband about it for him to simply brush it off and say he’ll talk to her about it. This all came to ahead, when my husband told me to get dressed since we were going to this restaurant that I love. I was very excited since we haven’t went on any dates since my daughter was born 10 months ago.

When we got to the restaurant , they seated us at a table for 4, i found it strange but never thought much into it. Not even 15 minutes later, my MIL and FIL came. I was hoping they were going to sit somewhere else , but as luck would have it they sat with us. Before we could share greeting with each other, my mil went on a huge rant about my daughter and how i’m forcing my husband to raise another man’s child. She said she won’t allow her son to raise someone else’s garbage baby and how she wants a paternity test done. I turned to my husband thinking he’ll defend me but he held his head low and said he agrees with his mother. I was in complete utter shock since my husband has never mentioned having any doubts of our daughter being his, if he would have voiced his concern i would have 100% did the test to restaure his worries. Without saying anything i got up and walked right out the restaurant.

My husband didn’t even try to go after me, he just saw me leave. I ended picking up my daughter from my parents house and heading home. Not even an hour later my husband comes home yelling at me for embarrassing him at the restaurant and how could I be so selfish to embarrass his mother. I tried telling him the fact he thinks our daughter isn’t his , hurts badly and he just scoffed. We ended up getting into a bad argument causing me to pack my stuff(and my babies stuff) to stay with my parents. His family and friends have been blowing up my phone calling me a dirty stank and so much more. the only person who’s on my side is my FIL. I spoke to my friend about it and she said I was the asshole for leaving the restaurant without explaining myself and how i owe them an apology.

Now i’m conflicted on this if i really am the asshole for. i’m honestly confused because my husband had 10 months to voice his concern and speak to me about it maturely instead of involving his mother.