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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Alert_Table4866 on 2023-10-06 12:42:45.


My (27f) boyfriend (24m) have been intimate multiple times, and every time he lasts for over 3 hours without ejaculating. When I asked him how long it takes him to come if he does it himself(hand job), he mentioned it takes him around 45 minutes. Every time we had sex, he never came. This is something I’ve never encountered with anyone else I’ve been with.

While I know he’s attracted to me both physically and emotionally, I can’t help but feel like I’ve somehow failed when he can’t ejaculate during our intimate moments. For me, when a partner ejaculates, it feels like a compliment or a reward.

I’ve reassured him that I have no issue if he ejaculates quickly, quite the opposite, but he insists that he never intentionally holds back. He’s not embarrassed by it.

I’m curious if anyone else has experienced a similar situation, and if so, what could be the cause of this? Any advice or shared experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!