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The original was posted on /r/sugarlifestyleforum by /u/Starshogun1 on 2023-10-06 02:46:43.

TLDR, I have been ripped off many times, never found connections and now SA is a wasteland.

I’m a good person. I have always come to this forum to offer whatever advice I could. Honest reviews. Honest opinions.

But now I think I finally had it up to here with the sugar life.

I met my first sugar baby in early September of last year. At first she seemed amazing. Smart, funny, cute. She wasn’t a total knockout but was attractive. We got along. At one point we talked for hours. I offered her a generous PPM and we did that for a while. She said she wanted to move towards an allowance arrangement. This was my first sugar baby. So I decided to give her 4X PPM as an Allowance. First of October I gave it to her. She promptly ghosted me. Ouch lessoned learned. She later texted me after new years and asked for more money. I posted about that.

Then I met my second Sugar baby soon afterwards. She had the most beautiful profile on Seeking though not quite in my area. I came up with a nice clever witty email. (PM if you want to know more). To my amazement, she responded. We got along. Small problem was she lived 45 minutes away so I think the small town made it harder to find a true SD.

When I met her I noticed I had been Catfished. Ok not terribly. I can tell this was still the young woman from the photos but she looked much older and was heavier. Ok not a huge deal. She was still cute and personality does indeed matter to me. We had our meet and greet, decided on PPM. I was reluctant to go to allowance with my history.

We got along well but she started to hit me up for more and more and more money. Her car broke down…twice. She got a speeding ticket. After a while, I told her half jokingly to take the bus. She got upset. But we patched it up. She would sleep over in our hotel. I really liked that because it felt more girlfriend like and not like an escort. She had some anxiety issues. She would ask for extras and this and that and would sometimes cry if I said no. I was still with her though. I felt really bad about leaving her with her various baggage and stayed longer than I should. She eventually moved to another city about 250 km away thats like 160 miles. I decided it was time to move on. It was now February.

I went back on Seeking. I approached many pot sugar babies and got rejected. Then out of the blue, out of nowhere, I got a message of “hi I like your profile, I’m willing to give it a chance if you are” My guard was up because being approached by an attractive girl is often a scammer. But she proved legit. She was very tall, like 6 foot 1. Very long legs. Cute face. When we went out every guy stared at me. I have to admit I liked it.

But then came the drawbacks. She was very professional. Kind of cold. In a way that was good, she was reliable and never asked for extras. But I didn’t feel like there was any connection which I desired. She had rules about every part of her body. Like she was a woman not composed of skin and bone but of board games. Can’t touch her hair. Cant kiss her face. Can’t touch her breasts, they are too sensitive. No tongue allowed. Nothing involving the bum. Couldn’t spend more than a hour or two. Seemed like she was counting time. But she was a nice, smart girl and we had some good conversations. But in the bedroom it was just too boring. I almost wanted her to complain and ask for extras just to make this feel more like a girlfriend relationship.

We met in a public place on Valentines day, after a couple of ppm meets. She said the next day she was spotted and didn’t want any more public dinners. I invited her to travel with me to a nearby, touristy city with a lot of fun things to do. She said she would go but “overnights she charges 2Xppm” It was to accommodate her and make her feel at ease that I offered to travel. I really felt lonely that night and decided “3 strikes your out”. I would quit sugaring for a while.

I went from about March to September with no sugar babies. I traveled. Worked on hobbies. But when September came around I started to get the itch. I had not had sex in months. I went back on Seeking and realized things had changed. There were so many women asking for meet and greet fees and obvious scammers.

I connected with one woman who at first seemed fantastic. She was beautiful and seemed very smart and friendly. We agreed to a meet and greet and I told her I would confirm on the scheduled day. I messaged her at noon and she responded back around 5 pm. She said she would still go out. So i got dressed, hit the road and then about 15 minutes before our scheduled date she said she got a headache and cancelled. I asked her out again and she said yes and this time I confirmed and she didn’t even get back to me all day long. No idea why she would do this. I told her that this was unacceptable behavior and good luck on her search, holding on to some dignity.

The past week I have been ghosted multiple times by various pots. I can understand if I was rude or if I was too pushy. But I really didn’t act this way. I texted one pot SB and we got along and she said she wanted to meet tonight. I told her I work late and told her I could meet for dinner at 8pm. She said that was too late and could we do it earlier? I said I can try to get off a little bit early for 7:30. She ghosted me.

I just can’t understand from reading Reddit, there seems to be a problem for Sugar babies finding nice, generous guys!

So I think I am done with the bowl. I am giving it one more week to find someone. If not, I will focus on making more money, hitting the gym and losing more weight (down 30 pounds in 10 weeks). Focus on myself. Try to meet someone organically. Accept this Sugar life is not for me.