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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/Numerous_Coffee_2590 on 2023-10-06 15:33:33.

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Context:

I’m vegan and from India, my family is vegetarian and there usually will be vegan options when I go out. There is this ingredient called ‘ghee’ which is clarified butter used in cooking but not used all the time and it’s usually added after putting the rest of the food on the plate and not while cooking so it’s not usually a problem for me as I can just not add it.

Here’s the story:

Recently my parents made me(19F) go to a relative’s house for lunch, I didn’t really want to go but they forced me to go anyways. When it was time for lunch, I asked if the dishes had any dairy products and that’s when one of them told me that all of them had ghee or some other dairy product already added so there was nothing I could eat. I didn’t have a problem with this and thought I could just get something on the way back or eat after coming home. I told them I can’t eat anything here and that I’m vegan and don’t consume dairy products some of them thought I was crazy and made fun of me but I just ignored them. Some of them were pushing me to eat as I would be hungry and to sit with them, I didn’t have a problem sitting with them but I didn’t want to eat . Some of the older relatives got offended that I wouldn’t eat in their house but I explained my position again. One of my relative told me to make an exception this time but I refused. My parents also stepped in and tried to defend me and to not make me eat there. Then my aunt came over with a plate and tried to feed me but I tried to avoid her and she then started scolding me on how I was being rude for not eating and that I have to eat . I calmly repeated that I’m vegan and don’t eat dairy products and that I wasn’t trying to disrespect them. Here’s where I might have been the a-hole-She still tried to shove food in my face and I just lost it and started yelling at her but she wouldn’t stop trying to shove food in my face so I pushed the plate on the floor spilling everything. The rest of them were also mad at me for ruining their lunch and being disrespectful. I argued that shoving food in my face isn’t exactly ‘respectful’ they got even more mad.

The visit was cut short and my parents took me home, they said they understood where I was coming from but could have handled it better and that I should apologise for ruining their lunch. I told them that forcing me to eat food I was uncomfortable with wasn’t right either.

So AITAH?