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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/HRnewbie2023 on 2023-10-06 15:54:22.

We have a 3yr old son, from her previous relationship. She works 5 days a week currently in her dream career. I work all over week doing about 40 hours but spread over 7 days (I own eight food locations). We have a nanny for about 20 hours a week to cover when I can’t look after our son and partner isn’t around., mainly 6am to 10am weekdays and our son gets dropped off at partners work nursery by nanny at 10am. I pick him up as soon as my day is done so he’s normally there 2-3 hours. Currently his nanny time is paid by the maintenance she gets for him.

Partner has been getting jealous of all the sahm’s in area and now wants to give up two days work so she can hang out with them. Except that all have school age kids so she wants to extend the nanny time on her two days off so she can do other things, but she can’t afford it…she’ll lose income from her job and she want to spend more on herself so is insisting I pick up the extra costs and take over the full cost of the nanny.

I currently pay for everything except the nanny and partners car (this includes a cleaner and laundry service) plus I do all the cooking (I was a chef). All of her income is her own. I said no I work ft and I’m not sure why she shouldn’t.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to pay for my partners time off