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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/Forsaken-Passage-935 on 2023-10-06 15:38:15.

We’ve done this for several years. My step-DIL suggested this when their oldest (my step-grandkid) got married. So now has a spouse AND a kid. Problem is, my hubby & I end up buying gifts for EVERYONE in the family, PLUS the two we each draw names for. Also, the step-grandkids still at home are older teens with $$$ tastes. AND we have to get a gift for hubs’ other child (who’s a trust-fund adult) AND my grown child, spouse & kids. (They don’t name draw…and don’t expect us to buy them much.) We’re getting older and AIN’T RICH. How do I tell my step-DIL I don’t want to do the “name-drawing” for gifts??