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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/LazyMud7819 on 2023-10-06 16:50:09.

She has 2 kids from her previous marriage. She lived in an apartment I own my home. When she moved with me the older boy(14) wanted to stay in that area(We live an hour away from where they lived before) so he decide to move with his father and the courts decided his sister (9) should stay with him. We are currently in an expensive custody battle since thier father is an alcoholic and is mentally abusive. Long story short thats not a healthy environment for them and we have a court case coming up. When we got married I found her lawyer was garbage we fired him and got a better one.

Now when we got married she knew being a stay at home wife wasn’t an option. I made it clear that I expected her to continue working and we agreed that was right and fair. She seems to think I am rich she knows what I make we combined incomes and joint accounts and all decisions are made together. Twice now she has said she thinks she is going to look for a new job and just work part time. Twice I have said that wont work for me. Even if we get custody the kids are school age and gone most of the time. There is no reason she shouldnt work. We offered to match what ever the kids have saved when they are 16 and want cars and I treat her kids as if they were my own. We got them into sports and gymnastics etc.

It has really bothered me that twice now she has floated the idea of changing to part time work. Again before we got married we agreed we would both work but now it seems she wants to change this agreement and its starting to make me feel like she married more for my paycheck. I have not said anything yet since I am still figuring out how to approach this. All I have said so far is if she did that there is alot we do now that would have to stop. For example we bought a boat well its a yacht butt barely. We got it dirt cheap because it needed work. This has let us spread the cost over multiple years and we have done the work ourselves. We could not afford to keep it with just me working and the kids wouldnt be able to do sports and stuff as much. Theres alot more but you get the idea.

AITH for expecting her to continue full time work.