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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/More_Amphibian_8792 on 2023-10-06 12:54:51.

My friend and I were playing games one night while calling when I noticed that he felt a bit down that night… I asked him whats wrong and he says hes been having issues with his girlfriend. As someone who loves giving advice, I gladly offered to hear him out and see if I could help him out with it. Throughout the talk, I was understanding his perspective and was agreeing with him most of the time.

This made him say things like “oh you know me so much better than my girlfriend” , “why cant my girlfriend be like you” , etc…

but the thing that caught me very off guard was when he said “i feel like we’re right person wrong timing”… that felt odd to me but I just laughed to brush it off.

however he wouldnt stop saying things like that just because I understood him and how he felt… either way I don’t think its right to be making those kind of comments to another girl when youre in a relationship.

To me it felt like it was cheating. I had to ask my friends about it, but I still am not sure what to think of that situation.

Is it this considered cheating??? He’s been with his girlfriend for 2 years now and I think the comments he made was not something you should be saying when in a relationship.

Update: I’ve read everyone’s comments and I’m understanding more about emotional cheating.

Though I feel like after reading these comments, I understand that asking if it’s CHEATING is not something I should have assumed. He was going through a tough time and I was just trying to be there to help him out.

I do 100# agree that it’s just disrespectful, but not cheating. Since then, I have been distant from him.

Also, after reading your opinions, I’ve been wondering if I should talk to his gf about it? Honestly I don’t wanna stir drama between them, but I had no idea that this would happen. I just thought I could give him advice and move on.