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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/espanol-wed-throw2 on 2023-10-06 20:25:08.

Two years ago I (M26) met my girlfriend Valentina (F23) at an Astros game and we started dating soon after that. We fell in love quickly and within a year, I was convinced that Valentina was my soul mate. She’s beautiful, witty, charming, headstrong; in short, I wouldn’t trade her for the world. I proposed to her in June and she accepted, and we’ve been starting to plan our wedding over the last few months. If everything goes smoothly, we’ll be married in February 2024.

One thing that I believe is important to mention is that Valentina’s an immigrant from Mexico and I’m a white American. While this hasn’t caused any major issues with our families, as my family loved her immediately and her family liked me as well, it’s recently become a point of contention with my family. Because most of Valentina’s family is still in Mexico and a lot of them can’t speak English (even Valentina struggles with the language’s intricacies from time to time), Valentina asked me if we could have part of the ceremony in Spanish. I wanted her family to be able to experience the wedding fully, so I agreed to this almost immediately.

However, when I brought this up to my family, they were less than enthused. My parents voiced displeasure that they wouldn’t be able to understand some of my wedding (while I’m pretty much conversational in Spanish, they only speak English) and my brother called me out for “inconveniencing” my family to “pander” to my in-laws. I refused to change this part of my wedding and while Valentina’s grateful to me for this, I can’t help but wonder if this is the right hill to die on.