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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Critical_Morning7896 on 2023-10-06 20:59:52.
So I (23F) was raised in a very veryyyy religious household. My parents are sunni muslims and from when I was 5 years old I had to wear the hijab and pretty much had religious dogma shoved down my throat.
When I was 16 I tried to take off my hijab and my parents freaked out (my mom even cut off my hair in an attempt to force me to wear the hijab). Eventually once I was 18 I managed to escape via uni and had very limited contact with them since. Luckily I am in Canada so there wasnt much they could do to me once I turned 18…
My younger brother (15M) reached oht recently to say that my dad is quite sick in the hospital and keeps asking for me and asked if I could come and see him and wear the hijab just to give him peace in case he does not recover.
A part of me wants to see them again but I have a lot of trauma regarding my hair…it took years to grow it after my mom cut it off and being forced to stay gome with no friends growing up made me quite stunted in uni which ngl makes me very resentful.
My bro is very understanding and isnt religious himself (apparently my mom and dad chilled out once I went LC) but he feels bad for my dad and mom so he’s pretty much begging me to just do this once for them and then cut them off for good.
Im ok to see my dad in the hospital (maybe not my mom she was the disciplinarian growing up) but putting the hijab back on is a no go. I wasted 18 yeads of my life wearing this and I cant stomach another second…
My bf also understands and has my back but I cant help but feel a bit guilty? So reddit AITA? Or should I stay firm and maybe even go full no contact if things escalate?
If you can’t stomach another second of the hijab then put it on, vomit into a toilet, compose yourself and comfort the dying man, then take it back off again. The requirement here doesn’t include keeping your stomach.
