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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Spiritual-Emu-2180 on 2023-10-07 02:25:42.

I can’t be the only one to experience this…

One of my biggest frustrations in dating has been the guys I go out with, I’d say 80% of them don’t have the ability to stop talking about themselves. They have a lack of reciprocity in a conversation and complete lack of interest in who I am.

Last night I went on a first date that I expected to be great. It was the first time in a long time I even had butterflies before a first date. But again, I was so disappointed: We went to a bar and within 10 minutes, I knew how the date was going to go because he had already cut me off multiple times without an apology or even noticing.

I’m telling you, every time I would get a word in, he would yawn or go “yeah, yeah right right” as if he was in a hurry for me to stop. He clearly did not want to listen and only talked about himself. He asked me ZERO questions about me. He didn’t seem to be nervous rambling, either. He was very confident but even when I’m nervous, I can still manage to ask a question about someone.

When this has happened with other guys, they always think it was a great date but to me it was a total waste of time and I have to tell them I’m not interested in a second. They typically seem so confused as to why not. I just answer with something like “you’re great and nice but there’s not an emotion/communication connection for me”.

Anyways…. It’s just really frustrating. I’m not a narcissist and want to just talk about myself but damn, at least ask me what my favorite color is lol.